“I hope you know that we are not all terrorists,” she said,
staring me straight in the face. I cannot
remember my response back, but her statement changed me.
………………….
Today I had plans to write about Summer movies. I even had a great quote prepared for “The
Great Gatsby” (I left feeling projectile vomited on with glitter – and yet
somehow enjoyed the movie more than I expected). But on my way to work this morning I was
listening to the news and was reminded of the fighting in Syria. I couldn’t help but think back to my time in
that country, almost seven years ago.
………………….
Back in 2006 I visited Syria and Lebanon. I suppose it was a “mission’s trip”, but it
was unlike any trip I had been on. We
came with very simple goals: to pray for the land, the people, and to love
them. It was the culmination of a year
spent working with a church in England.
I still remember telling my mom that our end of the year trip would
involve going to the Middle East. This is
not what any parent wants to hear when your home country is fighting in
multiple wars in the Middle East. I give
my mom a lot of credit. She remained
calm on the phone. I can only imagine
the conversation with my dad following that call. Here they sent their daughter off for a year
in England. Safe, tea drinking
England. She even said to me before I
left, “At least you’re not going to the Middle East.” Oops.
I want to let you in on a secret. Syria is amazing. It is one of the few places I’ve traveled to
that doesn’t feel touched by the West.
I’m sure there are other places in the world that have held onto their
culture, but with the growing accessibility of technology and communication,
the world seems to become increasingly homogenous. It was refreshing to be in a country that had
zero McDonalds. I’m not
exaggerating. McDonalds does not exist
in Syria (or at least it didn’t 7 years ago).
The shops would close in the heat of the day and everyone would go home
to rest. I remember sitting in a
courtyard with a fountain, covered overhead by layer after layer of leafy ivy
vines. As I walked the streets, twisted
down the various alleys of the markets, I had a glimpse of a place that echoed
its past. It was like visiting another era
in another world.
On one of our days we were at the local university. It had been a strange day for the team. We were taken to university officials when we
entered the campus (note: all of the university campuses we visited had guards
at the entrances). We sat nervously in
an administrative building. At one
point, our bags were searched. I was
especially anxious as my back pack contained all of the Arabic New Testaments
(getting caught with Bibles in Syria didn’t mean a trip to prison, but it was a
possibility that we could get kicked out of the country). We tried to play it cool, but I held my
breath and quietly prayed as my bag was searched. The guard didn’t stop at my contents. Exhale.
We were moved to another room and waited more. Eventually we spoke with a university
official. He showed us around the campus
and introduced us to a few English speaking students. We spoke briefly as the official politely
ushered us off the campus. As we were
about to get on the bus, the young women began to ask me about my thoughts on
George W. Bush and the war. Then, she
looked at me and said those words that stopped me: I hope you know that we are not all
terrorists.
Those words stopped me because I realized in the moment that
some parts of me believed that most of the people there were terrorists. My assumptions and prejudices slapped me in the
face. I came to love the Syrian people,
but these beliefs revealed parts of my heart that shocked me.
As the trip went on, these beliefs were constantly
challenged. I was overwhelmed by the
hospitality I received from strangers repeatedly. I was invited into house after house for tea
and refreshments. It felt so
surprising, especially since this is not a cultural value in the U.S. When’s the last time a stranger invited you
into their house? At a certain point, I
had this desire to shout, to proclaim to the world: These people, whom you have
called terrorists, you’ve missed them completely. They are kind, they are welcoming. They are normal people just trying to live
their lives. Why doesn’t this make the
six o’clock news? Why is the only view
we see of the Syrians tied into war or violence? With a gun or a bomb strapped to their
chest?
I had missed them.
My eyes were opened.
My time in Syria was the final exam in a year of having my
cultural beliefs challenged. It was a
humbling year, but I am continually grateful for the ways that experience
helped me to begin to see outside of myself and my home culture.
That year didn’t eradicate my tendencies to make snap
judgments or generalizations. I still
make them. I still cling to assumptions
that are just plain wrong. I think I am
able to see them more for what they are though.
And sometimes I’m able to pause and ask questions, instead of pretending
I have the answers.
………………….
People are usually surprised when they hear I’ve visited
Syria. They cautiously ask what it was
like. I know what they’re really
asking. Was it scary? Was it awful?
Why on earth would you go there? To
be honest, I had a couple of scary moments, but what shouts the loudest was my
experience of the kindness of the people I met.
I’ve been saddened as I’ve followed the reports out of Syria. My heart breaks for the Syrian people. This is not the first war they’ve known, nor
most likely will this be the last. There
are deep reasons for the wars and violence there. I don’t know what needs to change there, but
I so badly hope that something shifts.
As I listened to the radio this morning I knew I needed to
share my little story. I struggle to
name my hope for those reading this post.
Awareness is good. But deeper
than that is a desire that you would see beyond the generalizations. And pray.
2 comments:
"She even said to me before I left, “At least you’re not going to the Middle East.” Oops."
This made me laugh...when I left for India the first time I told my mom, "Don't worry, it's only for two years...it's not like I'm going to marry an Indian!" Famous last words. :)
Awww, that's hilarious! I think this all must be good for our parents.
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